Sheesh!

Give the brain a blank space and it will often fill it with something. Usually not chickens, unfortunately. This Sheesh! post looks at why uncertainty can turn into assumptions so quickly and how DBT’s Check the Facts skill can help us figure out what we actually know before the chickens take over.

Life has a way of handing us feelings, relationships, and experiences that refuse to fit neatly into one category. What’s in Alanis Morissette’s Junk Drawer? explores the DBT idea that two things can be true at the same time and why learning to hold both may help us get unstuck from either-or thinking.

Your brain is built to notice problems and figure out what to do next. That is incredibly useful until it starts treating your thoughts, feelings, relationships, and sense of self like problems that need to be fixed. Where Is My Mind? explores the problem solving mind and what ACT can teach us about making a little more room for being human.

Who we are gets shaped by a strange mix of family, experiences, expectations, labels, and the stories we tell ourselves along the way. Do Swords Come in Pink? explores identity, personal values, and what it can look like to decide which parts of your story still belong to you.

You can think carefully, make a reasonable choice, do your best, and things can still go wrong. No Matter How You Work It, Things Go Wrong looks at why we so quickly turn disappointment into self blame, and how acceptance can help us respond with a little more perspective when life refuses to follow the plan.

Your brain is very good at finding problems. Sometimes a little too good. Where Is My Mind? looks at the problem solving mind, why it keeps searching for something to fix, and what ACT can teach us about responding differently when our thoughts and feelings become the next project