We tend to wait for fear, uncertainty, or discomfort to disappear before we act. ACT offers another option: willingness to feel what we feel and move toward what matters anyway.

Sometimes one door closes and another opens. And sometimes you get stuck in the hallway wondering what on earth happens next. This Sheesh! post explores coping with uncertainty, the urge to make discomfort disappear, and how DBT distress tolerance skills can help us wait without making the hallway harder.

Give the brain a blank space and it will often fill it with something. Usually not chickens, unfortunately. This Sheesh! post looks at why uncertainty can turn into assumptions so quickly and how DBT’s Check the Facts skill can help us figure out what we actually know before the chickens take over.

You can think carefully, make a reasonable choice, do your best, and things can still go wrong. No Matter How You Work It, Things Go Wrong looks at why we so quickly turn disappointment into self blame, and how acceptance can help us respond with a little more perspective when life refuses to follow the plan.